What do you remember about the times when you were on the edge of a new insight or action and you hesitated? A breakthrough might have happened, could have happened, but didn’t happen. Something other than the new idea prevailed.
To what extent do you look back and ask “What if?” Do you ask yourself “What kept me from trying that new idea or listening to another?” To what extent is your self-defense and self-talk the best explanation for saying “No?”